Managing anger

keeping your anger in check can be challenging.Do you fume at little offenses? Does your blood pressure rocket when your child refuses to cooperate?  Anger  is a normal and even healthy emotion but it's important to deal with it in a positive way.
Uncontrolled anger  can take a toll  on both our health and relationships. Consider these ten anger management tips;

Think before you speak;
In the heat of the moment, it's easy to say something you will later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything and allow others involved in the situation to do the same.
Once  you are calm, express you anger;  As soon as you are thinking clearly,  express your frustration in an assertive but non- confrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly  and directly without hurting others or trying to control them.
 Get some exercise;   Physical activity can help reduce stress. If you feel your anger escalating, go for a brisk walk or run, or spend some time doing other enjoyable physical activities.
Take a timeout; Timeouts aren't just  for kids. Give yourself short breaks during times  of the  day that tend to be  stressful. A  few moments of quiet might help you feel better prepared to handle  what is ahead without getting irritated or angry.

Identify possible solutions; Instead of focusing on what made you  mad, work on resolving the issue at hand. Does your child's messy  room drive you crazy?  remind  yourself that anger won't fix anything and might only make it worse.

Don't hold  a grudge;   Forgiveness is a powerful tool.  If you  allow anger and negative feelings to crowd out positive  feelings, you might find yourself   swallowed up by your own  bitterness or sense of injustice, but if  you  can forgive  someone  who angered you, you might  both learn from the situation. It's  unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you  want  at all times. 

Use humor to release  tension;  lightening up can  help diffuse tension. Use  humor to help you face what's making you angry.  Avoid sarcasm though, it can hurt feelings and make things worse.