Sunday, 30 November 2014
Uncontrolled anger can take a toll on both our health and relationships. Consider these ten anger management tips;
Think before you speak;
In the heat of the moment, it's easy to say something you will later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything and allow others involved in the situation to do the same.
Once you are calm, express you anger; As soon as you are thinking clearly, express your frustration in an assertive but non- confrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly and directly without hurting others or trying to control them.
Get some exercise; Physical activity can help reduce stress. If you feel your anger escalating, go for a brisk walk or run, or spend some time doing other enjoyable physical activities.
Take a timeout; Timeouts aren't just for kids. Give yourself short breaks during times of the day that tend to be stressful. A few moments of quiet might help you feel better prepared to handle what is ahead without getting irritated or angry.
Identify possible solutions; Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand. Does your child's messy room drive you crazy? remind yourself that anger won't fix anything and might only make it worse.
Don't hold a grudge; Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger and negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice, but if you can forgive someone who angered you, you might both learn from the situation. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want at all times.
Use humor to release tension; lightening up can help diffuse tension. Use humor to help you face what's making you angry. Avoid sarcasm though, it can hurt feelings and make things worse.